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Saturday, May 16, 2020


"Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored."  
Titus 2:3-5

Jesus once illustrated the Kingdom of Heaven as a treasure that was hidden in a field which a man found and then covered up. Then in his joy, he sold all that he had and bought that field. The Gospel that Jesus taught of His Kingdom changed the world's concept of marriage, the home, and children and has proven to be a treasure hidden in a field. In modern times, our thinking has successfully hidden that treasure again. When we open the Bible, we discover that treasure, but I warn you, it might cost you all your worldly ambitions to enjoy its blessings!

Many of our women have been liberated and have devoted themselves to ambitious busyness everywhere but the home.  They are overwhelmingly ensnared in achieving accolades and recognition in the marketplace but not so much in the home.  They are dedicated to hatching professional pursuits that promise them power and a good pocketbook.  Instead of encouraging adolescents, even their own daughters, to cut the apron strings of mother and go out into society, many women are begging mothers not to cut the apron strings that their babies still cling to, because they are launching prematurely into a menacing world!  Mom has replaced herself with institutional daycare centers and fast-food restaurants!

Our women have been liberated right out of the genuine freedom many other mothers enjoyed for centuries, the freedom to oversee the home, to raise and train their children, and pursue personal creativity.  They have been brainwashed into believing that the absence of a titled and paid occupation enslaves a woman to failure, boredom, and imprisonment within the boundaries of the home.  Though feminism speaks of liberation, self-fulfillment, personal rights, and the breaking down of barriers, it inevitably means the opposite.  In fact, the opposite is true since a salaried job, and a titled job can definitely inhibit a woman's natural nesting instinct and maternity by inverting her priorities.  Failure is almost inevitable in the rearing of her own children and the building of a place of shelter and protection for those whom she loves most.  In the process of escaping their responsibilities, they seek after a high paying or prestigious job in the market place, not the home.  So how can they find time for personal creativity when they're working two jobs:  one at home and one away, in the market place?  In their quest to be what they want to be, they forget what is most important, what they were meant to be by God the Creator and Designer!  

It is clear to me we have raised generations of wimpy and selfish women.  The hearts of many women, including sisters in Christ, have been deceived.   It is an ugly fact that our hearts are easily deceived. Our hearts are selfish and want only to be happy… in love with life's lies and pleasures. We long for a taste of heaven here on earth, and we think that money and career will get it for us, but in reality, that taste of heaven is most likely to come from the small things of a home and family. Our Lord and Savior demands much more of us (women) than the pursuit of a career.  Jesus wants us to be busy working in His kingdom as builders for His kingdom's sake!

The real question is:

  1. Is being a wife and a mother worth the investment of a life?  
  2. Does the keeping of a home require preparation of skills, energy, and commitment?  
  3. Is homemaking really a challenging career?  
  4. Is homemaking a divine assignment?  
  5. Is homemaking a source of self-esteem? 
  6. Is homemaking a worthy service?  
  7. Is homemaking really a rewarding profession?  
  8. Is homemaking an amazingly useful career? 
  9. Is homemaking an overflowing oasis of opportunity?  
I invite you to find the answers as we study these issues.

"Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored."  Titus 2:3-5
  • Workers (keepers) at Home: 
    • What Exactly is a "Worker at Home?"  
In the Greek, "worker at home" is oikourgos which comes from two root words, oikos and ergon.  Oikos, which means "a dwelling, a home, or household."  Ergon, which means "to work or be employed."  Therefore, a "worker at home" is someone who watches over the dwelling or is a keeper of the household.  She is employed in household work. That is her job.  "Workers at home" also means to be on guard, to be a caretaker.  The home is the seat of domestic life, the bearing, and raising of children, forming a family.  It is evident, for the most part, that the younger women would have to be at home to accomplish this goal admirably.  In modern times, younger women are encouraged to get a “higher education” and pursue their careers after which they marry and begin a family as they approach middle-age.  This is contrary to the Divine Counsel!
"Therefore, I want younger widows to get married, bear children, keep house, and give the enemy no occasion for reproach."  I Timothy 5:14-15

The Greek word for "keep house" is oikodespoteo, which literally means to "rule or guide the house."  In I Timothy 5:14-15, we find an analogous (similar) illustration to the "worker or keeper at home." The younger widows are given the command in this text in verse 14.  The intent of this text is to keep the widow out of trouble, protecting her reputation.  Her main job is to run her household in a manner that is pleasing to God and stay out of trouble.  A young mother's place is in the home, keeping it, guarding it, watching over those whom God has entrusted to her keeping.  To do otherwise will indeed cause the Word of God to be blasphemed.  This is serious!  Let us not deceive ourselves into thinking that we can disobey God without any ill consequences.  Judgment will assuredly come.  The Word of God is true and right.  If we ignore it, His written words in Scripture, we are blaspheming, speaking evil of His Words.

According to God's Word, to be "keepers at home" is one of the eight mandates in Titus 2:4-5 It is not a suggestion!  It is God's will for wives!  "Keeping the home" is more than staying at home.  It is having the right kind of heart that is fixed only on the home.  The “help meet” is the one that guards the home against outside influences.  She is one that is always on the watch to protect her children from all evil.  She is not idle, and neither will her children be idle.  She eases her husband's heavy load by helping him in any way she can.  She is frugal in all her endeavors.  She teaches her children to fear and serve the LORD.  She also teaches her children to honor and love their daddy.  She keeps and makes her home a sanctuary of peace, love, and order.  She maintains the safety of her children, even as God provides a refuge for us, His children.  She takes her responsibility seriously!

  • Homemaking is a Challenging, Demanding, Divine, Worthy, Bountiful, and Rewarding  Profession:
Any career or professional pursuit demands training, preparation, commitment, and dedication over the long run.  It demands constant activity and progressive achievement.  It is a combination of training and preparation, commitment and loyalty, energy and time, excellence, and achievement.  Finding an efficient and capable person who is professionally suitable in many and different careers simultaneously is rare indeed.  Do we want our family physician to be our policeman and mailman as well?  I doubt it!  Why?  Because we would want him to specialize and sharpen his skills and expertise in medicine.  Yet many doctors can type and counsel a troubled patient.  Though there is a diversity of opportunities within most careers, it is vital not to neglect the priority responsibility.  Homemaking is a career or profession.

The dictionary defines the homemaker as "one who manages a household, especially a wife and mother." The household is composed of the children, the human beings, the everlasting souls that God gives to a home.  Homemaking is essential enough to demand a woman's diligent preparation, her highest commitment, fullest energy, and most excellent creativity.  A homemaker does her job without the enticement of a paycheck. She does it for the love of her babies and her husband.  No amount of money can duplicate a homemaker, for she is worth far more than rubies (Prov. 31:10)!  Homemaking is not employment for slothful, uninspired, incapable women.  Homemaking has as much challenge and opportunity for success and failure, growth and expansion, benefits, and incentives as any other corporate career.  

Keeping the home is one of God's most divine assignments to the wife.  Even down to changing the sheets, doing laundry, and scrubbing the floors.  In Titus 2:3-5, Paul exhorts the older women to teach the younger women "to love their husbands and children... to be busy at home" (oikourgous, Greek, literally, "homemakers").  The home is a place apart, a walled garden in which many virtues can be preserved without being easily crushed by modern life.  The mother in her home is the angel in residence.  The home and family must be more important than the possessions of material goods.  Living in a feminist culture, few women realize what excellent service they are doing for mankind and for the kingdom of Christ when they provide a shelter for the family and good nourishing (mothering).  It is the main foundation on which all else is built.  A mother can build something that is far more magnificent than any cathedral.

She can build a dwelling place for immortal souls (her child's earthly tabernacle and earthly abode).  No professional pursuit can so uniquely combine the most menial tasks with the most meaningful opportunities!  The Book of Proverbs is the most practical book in the Bible.  It is saturated with home and family and their relationships within.  Proverbs 31:10-31 overflows with personal and domestic energy and efficiency in the managing or keeping of the home (Titus 2:5; 1 Timothy 2:10; 5:14).

In Luke 10:38-48, when Jesus rebuked Martha, He did not condemn the vital work she was doing, nor did He decry her gracious hospitality extended to Him.  Jesus pointed to the one thing Martha had omitted, the one needful thing.  He urged Martha not to be so burdened by her work and that she neglect the spiritual sustenance which Mary so faithfully sought.  We must never ignore or neglect God's heavenly things, His kingdom of righteousness over the joy of serving others.
  • Finding Joy as Mothers, Homemakers, And Wives:
Can we find joy in our work as mothers, homemakers, and wives?  YES!  But the heart must be in it. We cannot find this joy if we are absorbed in self, looking for an easier way to enter the gates of heaven without any doing from our part.  So often, our poor and selfish choices rob us of God's many blessings.  Why?  Simply because we want to avoid the responsibility that comes with those blessings such as our homes, our children, and husbands.

The best way to make homemaking a joyful task is to do it as a service unto the Lord. The only way to avoid the drudgery in such mundane tasks is to pray to God to catch the vision of this divine challenge of making and nurturing the home.  Running a home and caring for the family demands a lot of time.  Having a career is much easier than being a homemaker!  I assure you of that!  It is a 24-hour profession.

  1. It demands a variety of skills and abilities.  
  2. It requires physical work, preparation, and care.  
  3. It demands devotion and heroic service. 
But it is worth it all!  And we must accept and embrace our God-given role and assignments.  God's ideal woman is of great worth.  Her worth cannot be fixed or estimated, for it is far more than rubies.  God's ideal woman is a valuable helper to her husband.  Her husband trusts her ability in the managing of her home.  She is a woman of strength and a source of pride for her husband and children.  Her complete management of the home frees her husband to do and concentrate on his labors.  She meets the needs of her family in the most possible way.  And she does it with joy!

  • Raising and Teaching Our Daughters to be Homemakers:
Today we live in a culture where homemaking and parenting are overwhelming. Why?  Because we have raised generations of women whose hands are not skilled or equipped.  Many don't know where to start when it comes to homemaking, because the last few generations have dropped the ball!  They demanded that we "go out and find ourselves, be all you can be, pursue your dreams and ambitions,"  and "get your Masters, Ph.D."  Some have more degrees than a thermometer!  They say, "Become independent and self-sufficient so that you can have a more comfortable life and not have to do the "menial" work of home." 

For years,  they have lied to us (they lied to me!) about our God's divine design for us, for the home.   Although I was raised by a great homemaker, wife, and mother, my mother looked down on the skilled laborer, the homemaker.  Parents somehow have been brainwashed by feminism into thinking that raising our daughters to pursue just marriage and a family as their only career is demeaning.  We believe that if we don't encourage our daughters to become professionals and independent women, somehow we have failed; that if we don't send them to college to get a degree, we have failed.  According to whose standards have we failed?  To our culture, society, or to God?  Our culture, of course, but not according to God!

I admit I used to be a big feminist who thought this way.  I thought a woman's fulfillment was a career and prestige.  And YES, I obtained my degrees!  But by the grace of God, all these empty and shallow ideas faded one by one.  What was of great importance to me became rubbish.  The Gospel changed and shaped my heart. I agree that education can be useful.  We should all be educated and never stop being educated, but let’s not waste our good common sense and strong work ethic while we are at it. Money is good and useful if we don’t love it. It is a needful tool, but let us not pursue riches over wisdom and righteousness.
"But whatever things were gain to me, those things I have counted as loss for the sake of Christ.  More than that, I count all things to be loss in view of the surpassing value of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them but rubbish so that I may gain Christ..."  Philippians 3:7-11

We seem to have forgotten the importance of working with our hands. As a result, we have weakened the backbone of our country, the church, and our families.

The modern woman who marries doesn't have a clue about setting up a home.  They don't know how to do anything beyond opening a can of mush!   When it comes to budgeting, home repairs, home industry, taking care of babies, hospitality, and even the work of relationships… they all start at zero because they have not been taught how to do these things. Their parents required very little of them as children to carry into adulthood.  No wonder our women are overwhelmed!

Sadly, our generation is still raising women who are weak, who think of marriage and children as a burden. As our mothers and fathers complain about the load and the expense of children, they delegate their responsibilities of care, education, and relationships to other people. The children are carrying on this vision, or the lack thereof.  What they seem to forget is that the Lord has given us a husband and children, and we must be faithful to that charge!

We must purpose in our hearts as godly Christians (whose will is to do the will of God) to raise up our children to be strong and skilled while having a servant's heart. They will not get that from us if we neglect our duties to train them.  Let us be faithful to God with what He has charged us, our children, and let us not raise up weak and whiny daughters who buckle under the pressure of motherhood.

Yes, I know it is hard!  Do I think it is an easy task?  NO, but we must be strong women for our daughters to be strong.  Let us roll up our sleeves and get busy with our work and our Father's business.  Remember, our work will take our whole lifetime to complete.  Accept it!

Let us teach our women and especially our daughters to love their husbands even when they do not deserve it.  Let us teach them to make their home a heaven no matter how humble it is.  Let us teach them to train their children to obey and let us equip them to work and be servants for God's glory.
Let us stop shaking our fist at God for giving us the responsibilities of the next generation.   Let us not expect someone else to do our work or to make it all easy for us!

Do you think you have it hard?  Compare your day with the day of a woman 200 years ago!  At least you have indoor plumbing and running water.  Our previous generations knew they were building societies to be strong, productive societies. They worked hard and had a vision.  It is in removing hard work and vision that society ceases to exist.
"Let our sons in their youth be as grown-up plants, and our daughters as corner pillars fashioned as for a palace."  Psalm 144:12

  1. Did you know plants take a lot of work, constant work?  
  2. Did you know that pillars take a lot of work also, back-breaking work?  
Without them, there is no future. There is no food, and there is no palace.
      Let us not allow our hearts and hands to become a stumbling block!

      Let us learn from Proverbs 31, which provides us with a beautiful illustration of the excellent wife and the tasks she carries out to help her husband as a good manager of her household.  It is an excellent lesson for us as wives.  God’s intent from the beginning was for the home to be the wife's domain. Unfortunately, it is not common in today's culture for the wives to be “workers at home,” in spite of God's intent, "to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored"  Titus 2:5.  In the excellent wife of Proverbs 31:10-31, the majority of the traits discussed pertain to the home as the wife's domain.  

      Please note that out of 22 verses, nine refer directly to her work in the home.  Her home was the center of her life.  She was content and satisfied performing her God-given role, doing her job well.  Later in the New Testament, the apostle Paul wrote to Titus concerning this matter, Titus 2:3-5.


      For more than sixty years, the "feminist movement" has lied to us, telling us that a woman is much happier and fulfilled as a human being when she pursues a career and goes to work outside the home, abandoning her homemaking and child-training.  They go so far as to say that those feelings of remorse or guilt about leaving our babies for someone else to raise are just imposed upon us by our society.  In fact, we have been taught by these feminists to suppress these natural feelings or worries and to pursue a career and go to work putting these ahead of or above our family.  They have assured us that the children will not be damaged and maybe even better off since the household will have more money to spend on the children, fewer children, and more programs and social activities that develop their social skills.  The last sixty years have thoroughly tested their assertions, and we are awakening to the realization that we have lost two or three generations.  We are losing our children to unbelief and anti-social behaviors at a terrifying rate!  The percentage of American women with children under eighteen who have entered the workforce has steadily increased from 56.80% in 1990 to 73.1% in 2001.

      This same "feminist movement," mocks the Biblical concept of a "worker at home."   Why? Their message is "a disdain of domesticity and a contempt for housewives."   The level of hostility was extremely shrill and piercing in the early years of this movement.   As a terrible consequence of this, the profession of homemaking is not very popular or favored in our culture today.  Many women, including Christians, are reluctant to stay at home because of the lack of respect they receive from our culture.   Homemaking is regarded as a low-status job.  The most ridiculous thing I have ever heard is that being a "housekeeper" or "homemaker" is acceptable as long as you are not caring for your own home. And that treating men with attentive devotion is also alright as long as that man is your boss in the office and not your husband at home.  Your boss pays your salary, your husband does not.  No wonder we have so much adultery among our working women!  The next most ridiculous thing is that it is okay to care for children even with heroic service as long as they are someone else's and not your own. As long as someone pays you for it, it is worth it. 

      Even though the "feminist movement" has apparently succeeded in undermining the role of the homemaker, pushing and forcing her into the workforce, it has not secured a woman's happiness and fulfillment.  What stresses me intensely is to see my sisters in Christ being seduced by this demonic feminist doctrine.  This doctrine is poisonous and toxic and has infected too many men and women when it comes to homemaking.  Titus 2 calls it "workers at home."  In I Timothy 5:14, Paul commanded the younger widows to marry, bear children, and manage their homes.  The Word of God commands the man explicitly to be the provider of his home. "But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever"  (I Timothy 5:8).  Meanwhile, women are given the responsibility of being the caretakers of their home.  

      Because of feminism, our people prefer to ignore God's commands and intentions concerning the role of women, especially our younger women.  We must return to God's Word to find out what God wants and demands of us, women.  God demands that married women stay at home, taking care of her family, managing their homes for the well-being of their families.  The home is the foremost place of work for mothers and wives.  So, how is a wife to manage her home as she should when she is working outside the home or piling her plate full of so many activities that do not pertain to the care of her home?  Obviously, she will not have the time or energy to achieve this task.  Let us think deeply and examine our motives for wanting to leave our homes and pursuing our own interests and goals, abandoning our duty before God.
      • Is it worth it to sacrifice your precious children?   
      • Is that what you really want?  
      • What is your heart set on?  
      • Are you trying to avoid becoming a "non-person," someone insignificant and important?  
      • Do you want to pursue more material riches?  
      • Do you want to get away from your responsibility for child care?
      • Is it because you want to relieve your husband of his God-given responsibility and obligation to work and provide for his own?  

      I can assure you that none of these motives or reasons is for the glory of God.  I am sorry to have to say this, but they are mainly self-serving and sinful reasons.  They are not godly and righteous motives.
      • A godly and righteous motive would be the desire to learn to be content with what He provides for you.  Philippians 5:18.  
      • A godly motive would be a desire to be thankful in your heart to God for what you do have.  Thessalonians 5:18.  
      • A godly motive would be to do all for the glory of God, I Corinthians 10:31.  

      Staying at home and managing it well is the God-given primary ministry for the wife.  It is where she must be focused.  
      • Don't you think it is wiser for a wife to stay home and take care of her family?  
      • Is it of no value to you as a mother to bring up your children in the "discipline and instruction of the Lord."  Ephesians 6:4

      A godly wife is one that works heartily as unto the Lord, Colossians 3:23.  She is a hard worker, a good and efficient wife, and a mother.  There is no room in her life for laziness, wasting time.  If she is wasting her time indulging herself in activities such as reading, watching TV, computer networking, lying in bed most of the day, or such, she must repent of her laziness.  I am confident that God would help her become more self-disciplined. 


       Let us take to heart the truths of the Proverbs about the lazy woman versus the self-disciplined woman:

       The Lazy Person

      The Self-Disciplined Person
      “How long wilt thou sleep, O sluggard? When wilt thou arise out of thy sleep?   Yet a little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to sleep:   So shall thy poverty come as a robber, and thy want as an armed man.”  Proverbs 6:9-11                                
      “Go to the ant, thou sluggard; Consider her ways, and be wise:  Which having no chief, Overseer, or ruler, provideth her bread in the summer, and gathereth her food in the harvest.”  
      Proverbs 6:6-8
      “But he that sleepeth in harvest is a son that causeth shame.”  Proverbs 10:5b           
      “He that gathereth in summer is a wise son.”  Proverbs 10:5a                                  
      “The slothful man roasteth not that which he took in hunting.”  Proverbs 12:27a
      “But the precious substance of men is to the diligent.”  Proverbs 12:27b                          
      “He also that is slack in his work is brother to him that is a destroyer.” 
      Proverbs 18:9                  
      The ants are a people not strong, yet they provide their food in the summer.”  
      Proverbs 30:25          
      “Slothfulness casteth into a deep sleep; and the idle soul shall suffer hunger.”  
      Proverbs 19:15 
       “She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth food to her household, and their task to her maidens.”  Proverbs 31:15  
      “I went by the field of the sluggard, and by the vineyard of the man void of understanding; and, lo, it was all grown over with thorns, The face thereof was covered with nettles, and the stone wall thereof was broken down.  Then I beheld, and considered well; I saw, and received instruction:  Yet a little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to sleep; so shall thy poverty come as a robber, and thy want as an armed man.”  
      Proverbs 24:30-34                                        
      “She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.” 
      Proverbs 31:27 

      Some wives are perfectionists.  They overwork themselves, making everyone in the family miserable.  Let us be careful and not fall in that trap.  Let us not make idols in our hearts, but instead, let us set our hearts to do everything for the glory of God.

      Knowing what God has declared about an excellent wife, let us use her example as an inspiration and affirmation to us.  Let us learn from this excellent wife to be diligent, faithful, and godly wives.  Remember that we portray God to the world by the way we behave as wives and mothers.  Let us never think that our role as godly mothers and wives is of no value.  It is of much value to our God!


      Consider the following comparison of Ruth, a godly woman, and the Proverbs 31 Woman:

      Devoted to her family  
       Ruth 1:15-18     
       Proverbs 31:10-12, 23
      Delighted in her work  
       Ruth 2:2        
       Proverbs 31:13
      Diligent in her labor 
       Ruth 2:7, 17,23        
       Proverbs 31:14-21, 24, 27
      Diligent in her godly speech 
       Ruth 2:10,13         
       Proverbs 31:26
      Dependent on God   
       Ruth 2:12       
       Proverbs 31:25b, 30
      Dressed with care    
       Ruth 3:3         
       Proverbs 31:22, 25a
      Discreet with men     
       Ruth 3:6-13       
       Proverbs 31:11, 12, 23
      Delivered blessings    
       Ruth 4:14-15      
       Proverbs 31:28-29

      • A Contrast Between The Foolish Woman and The Excellent Woman:

      Consider the following contrast:

      The Foolish Woman
      The Excellent (Godly) Woman
      She is described in Proverbs 1-9
      Described in Proverbs 31
      She is lewd, Proverbs 6:24; 2:17       
      She is loyal, Proverbs 31:11
      She is a home breaker, Proverbs 7                
      She is a homemaker, Proverbs 31
      She is easy to find, Proverbs 7:10-12     
      She is a rare gem, hard to find, Proverbs 31:10
      She is cheap, Proverbs 30:20       
      She is precious, Proverbs 31:10 
      She has outer beauty (surface attraction) Proverbs 6:25 
      She has inner beauty, Proverbs 31:30; I Peter 3:4
      She works with her mouth (lively lips, but no life) Proverbs 21:9, 19; 25:24, etc.  
      She works with her hands (a righteous life of loving deeds)  Proverbs 31
      She is a hypocrite, Proverbs 7:14             
      She is upright before God, Proverbs 31:30 
      She is outside the home, Proverbs 7:11-12    
      She abides in the home, Proverbs 31:27
      She does her husband nothing but harm and evil, Proverbs 2:17
      She does her husband good, Proverbs 31:12
      She is on the loose at night, Proverbs 7:9,18                        
      She rests at night to rise up early, Proverbs 31:15
      She kills her victims, Proverbs 7:23             
      She blesses her family, Proverbs 31:28
      She lives by lust, Proverbs 7:10
      She lives by love, Proverbs 31:20


      So far, we have studied and considered many things a wife can do "She looketh well to the ways of her household."  But there are also many things a prudent wife must be careful not to do, which are of great importance.  She should have a merry heart.  She should manage her household well and wisely.  She must learn to manage the finances of her home carefully, especially when they are always limited.  A crucial way to honor God and help our husbands is to be cautious, careful not to covet what others have.  It is to learn to be content with what God has provided us, given us.
      “All the days of the afflicted are evil; but he that is of a cheerful heart hath a continual feast.”  Proverbs 15:15
      If you find yourself among those women who often complain about her family's lowly financial state; and how she unfairly must "do without" because her husband "cannot support the family acceptably, adequately."  Then you are behaving in a way that is dishonorable to God and an attack upon your husband's ego.  Why?  Simply because of your downcast, disheartened, and ungrateful attitude of the heart.  And you must repent of it!

      Sadly, I know many women, even sisters in Christ, who are always discontent and unhappy because they have to live with tight finances and cannot afford to have what their heart desires. Tension starts to rule and invade their homes.  They are sad, and their faces of discontent always reflect suffering.  They think that God should act on their behalf.  Instead, there are those women who have, from a merry heart, learned to be content with their physical surroundings.  They are not carnal minded. They live for Christ and His rule, eternal life.  So they bravely smile and refuse to show their discontent.

      • They have learned that discontentment is not a product of circumstances, but rather it is the state of the soul.  They have remembered that “…  he that is of a cheerful heart hath a continual feast.”  Proverbs 15:15
      • They have the same mind as Paul, “… for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therein to be content.”  Philippians 4:11.
      • They have learned, “…content with such things as ye have.”   Hebrews 13:5 
      • They have learned, “But godliness with contentment is great gain:  for we brought nothing into the world, for neither can we carry anything out; but having food and covering we shall be therewith content”  Timothy 6:6-8.  
      • They have learned that practice makes perfect.  Why not practice having a merry and thankful heart?  
      • They smile at the future.  
      • They have learned to count and appreciate their blessings.  “And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to the which also ye were called in one body; and be ye thankful.”  Colossians 3:15.  
      • They have learned joy, peace, and long-suffering, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, meekness, self-control; against such there is no law”  Galatians 5:22-23
      • They press on toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God, “Brethren, I count not myself yet to have laid hold: but one thing I do, forgetting the things which are behind, and stretching forward to the things which are before, I press on toward the goal unto the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus”  Philippians 3:13-14.  
      • They have learned not to be anxious over nothing, "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God" Philippians 4:6.  
      • Finally, they have learned that thanksgiving produces joy.

      It is vital to learn and understand with prudence that when the family finances are tight, the wife must not let herself feel poor, no matter how little money she may have.  In Bible words, feeling poor is a state of mind, an attitude of the heart.  It has nothing to do with money.  It is a poisonous symptom because it is focused only on material gain, money, the lack of it rather than on God.

      Unfortunately, we live in a culture today where many people are not content with what they have. Even when they live in fabulous houses, they still think it is not much, not enough.  They seem to be ashamed of what they have.  They still feel poor.  Is it a sin to be poor?  What is wrong or shameful about poverty?  This is sad!  We must deny ourselves that pitiful feeling of poverty.  Christians are rich!  We must value and appreciate the blessings that God has bestowed on us and feel rich. Consider some of the many blessings:

      • A good and godly husband, wife, and children.
      • Good health.
      • The freedom to worship God.
      • The Gospel of Christ.
      • Our redemption.
      • The hope of eternal life.
      • The freedom to home educate our children.
      • Air to breathe.
      • Water to drink.
      • Food to eat.
      • The everlasting Word of God.
      • And most of all, our Lord and Savior:
        • Who redeemed us.
        • Who cares for us.
        • Who sympathizes with our weaknesses.
        • And Who has sworn to never forsake us.  
      If you have any of these many blessings, then you are more than rich.

      “The blessing of Jehovah, it maketh rich; And he addeth no sorrow therewith.”  
      Proverbs 10:22.
      Remember that the greatest men to have ever walked this earth lived in poverty!  The apostle wrote,

      “Who can separate us from the love of Christ?  Can affliction or anguish or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? … No, in all these things we more than victorious through Him who loved us.  ”Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or anguish, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?  Even as it is written, for thy sake we are killed all the day long; we were accounted as sheep for the slaughter.  Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.”  
      Romans 8:35-37
      • Gratefulness
      Being grateful and thankful is the key to spiritual victory.  Joy is the result of a thankful heart. A thankful heart is the product of a person who chooses to always give thanks no matter what the circumstances.  It is the person who never compares himself to other people but always to Christ.  It is the heart that realizes he is rich beyond measure because he is a child of God and that in Him, he finds His portion.  It is the heart that is always looking for reasons to be content and give thanks.


      David once said:
      "Blessed be the Lord, For He has made marvelous His loving kindness to me in a besieged city."  Psalm 31:21

      There is nothing more critical than finding oneself in a besieged city (strong city).  It is as bad as one's circumstances can get.  Yet, David acknowledges God's loving-kindness toward him.  God heard his crying prayer for deliverance.  He made David aware of His love and kindness for him.

      • Are we aware, or do we acknowledge God's loving-kindness toward us?  
      • Can we fathom the depth of His love for us?  Have we forgotten Romans 8:38-39?  
      "For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord."

      We, as children of God, must acknowledge that our Father in heaven is the One Who provides for us wives through our husbands.  However, it is not always a simple thing to do.  Why?  Because some husbands are not working hard to provide for their families.  Yet, we, as wives, must be careful not to reproach them or complain about them.  Although it is difficult and stressful, we must accept our circumstances whatever they are.  We must trust that God is the One in control over all.  That is not to say there is nothing we can do to help our circumstances.  Consider what we can do instead of nagging, blaming, and throwing a temper tantrum.  We must have more faith and trust in our God.

      • We Can Pray, Diligently:
      The first thing we can do when we find ourselves in such circumstances is to pray fervently.  Don't underestimate the power there is in prayer.  Our Lord has the power to do anything He pleases.  YES, He can even mold, change, and transform the heart of our husbands.  Nothing is too difficult for Him when one prays with faith.  We must pray for one another, especially for our husbands.

      "Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much."  James 5:16
      "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God."  Philippians 4:6
      "Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time, casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you."  
       I Peter 5:6-7

      When our husbands see us working cheerfully and hard, perhaps even struggling to make ends meet, this may inspire them to work even harder.  Nagging and demeaning him will certainly not encourage him.

      • We Must Accept that God is in Control:
      As wives, we must guard ourselves against the terrible habit of blaming our hard-working husbands for the lack of finances or funds.  Unfortunately, many wives have a way of blaming their husbands for all circumstances when, in fact, this might be God's will for us.  Consider the following text:

      "Now when Rachel saw that she bore Jacob no children, she became jealous of her sister; and she said to Jacob, 'Give me children, or else I die.' Then Jacob’s anger burned against Rachel, and he said, 'Am I in the place of God, who has withheld from you the fruit of the womb?'"  
      Genesis 30:1-2

      Some wives have the pitiful tendency of blaming their husbands for everything that goes wrong, even their own failures and shortcomings, regardless of whether it is his fault or not.  It is very sad but all too common.   We are natural blame-shifters and have been from the very start, back in the Garden of Eden.  Do you remember what Adam and Eve did after they disobeyed God and ate the forbidden fruit?

      "And He said, ‘Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?'  The man said, 'The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me from the tree, and I ate.'  Then the Lord God said to the woman, 'What is this you have done?' And the woman said, ‘The serpent deceived me, and I ate."'  Genesis 3:11-13

      Not only did they shift the blame, but they also attempted to be independent of God.  They wanted to be the ones in control of things.  Sadly, we also have the terrible tendency to blame others for things that they are nor responsible for.  We must repent if we don't want to be condemned by God.

      • We Must Spend Carefully:
      When a family runs out of money before the end of the month, maybe the root of the problem is that they are spending beyond what they can afford.  They are spending too much. Perhaps the husband is careless and lacks restraint in spending money.  Maybe he is wasteful and desperately needs to be more careful.  His wife can encourage him to be thriftier, frugal.  If this is where you find yourself, then I advise you to pray about it.  Why not ask God to help your husband be wiser in the way he spends the family's resources.  This is better than scolding him or lecturing him for his failures.  I guarantee you this will only make things worse.  Be wise, and pray!

      What if the culprit is you!  In a world where the internet has made spending much easier, many women tend to shop and be extravagant online.  The internet, buying online, can be a blessing and a curse at the same time.  Why?  Because we are inclined to shop more from the comfort of our home. We feel at ease buying whatever our hearts desire!  Be wise and be careful!  Don't use your liberties to hinder others, especially your loved ones.  Why?  Because it is very easy to get into the habit of spending too much money.  We are tempted from every angle and encouraged to spend extravagantly out of control.  It is more difficult to get into the habit of not spending money than spending money.  

      Instead, why don't you ask yourself:
      • Is it worth it?  
      • Can you live without it?  
      • Can you make it or make it do?  
      • Can you swap something for it?  
      • Can you buy it used?  
      • Can you buy it on sale?  
      • Can you cook it yourself?  It always helps to cook your own meals at home instead of eating out or buying fast food all the time.  Just think of how much money you can save, especially if you have a large family.  Making your own things is much cheaper and of greater benefit for the whole family.  

      Those of us who are on a limited budget must learn ways to be frugal, thrifty, and good bargainers. We should not pay full price until we have shopped around to find the best price.  We are commanded by our Lord to be good stewards of the money that He has entrusted to us.  

      Remember that God is providing for you through your husband.  Whatever his earnings, it is all God's provision for you.  Therefore, you, as a wise wife, must learn to manage your household in such a way that you can afford to live on his income.  Don't forget, this is one of the crucial ways you can help him as his helper.


      As wives who claim to be godly and wise, we must learn to be extremely careful about comparing ourselves and our circumstances to that of others who have more money or better things than we do. Why?  Because this can immensely affect the family's budget.  Let us be wise and watch out for covetousness.  It is shocking to me that most people don't recognize it or see it as a big problem.   For most people, especially in our country, being discontent and unhappy with what they have seems to be entirely natural and harmless.   They are dissatisfied with what they have and want more.  There is a difference between coveting and just wanting something, though.  

      Coveting is wanting what the other one has when we can't have it or must not have it.  For example, if I want someone’s house, car, or possessions.  This is wrong, a sin because it means that you are not content or satisfied with what God has given to you.  It is like demanding God to give you what He has given others.  I know to some, this might not seem too critical or serious, but we must heed the warnings given to us about covetousness and the other sins related to it.
      “Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry”  Colossians 3:5

      Notice that covetousness is mentioned in this text, along with sexual immorality, idolatry, impurity, passion, idolatry, and evil desires.  It is crystal clear that we have been given a severe warning about coveting.  Let us not take this admonition lightly.  Why?   Simply, because this terrible tendency displeases our Lord.  Because with this attitude of the heart, we are not acknowledging Him as our God, the One Who provides for our needs.  Do you know that when you covet, you are challenging God's right to bestow His gifts on us as He sees fit?  What is even worse, we are not acknowledging His protective care, providence, goodness, and wisdom in what He has given us and how He has blessed us.  This is serious! Take heed, and do not sin!

      If we are not content or satisfied with what He provides for us, then we are finding fault with our Almighty God.  We are even despising and arguing with Him!  How dare we!  
      “Will the faultfinder contend with the Almighty?  Let him who reproves God answer it.” Job 40:2  
      To argue and find fault with the Almighty, our Father, is a shameful and terrible thing for us to do, the undeserving recipients of His grace.  Let me remind you that God has adopted us with loving-kindness into His family.  Is this not enough reason to be content and satisfied?  It is undoubtedly more than the portion we deserve.  Let us be grateful and honor the King of kings and the Lord of lords. Let us honor Him as ruler over our lives.  Let us acknowledge Him for His infinite provisions for us and let us also trust Him to orchestrate our circumstances as He sees fit for us.  Let this sink in deeply!

      In Luke 12:15, our Lord and Savior warns us about covetousness:

      "Then He said to them, 'Beware, and be on your guard against every form of greed; for not even when one has an abundance does his life consist of his possessions.'"
      Why not consider Deuteronomy 30:10-20 when we are wondering what our lives consist of?

      "If you obey the LORD your God to keep His commandments and His statutes which are written in this book of the law, if you turn to the LORD your God with all your heart and soul.  'For this commandment which I command you today is not too difficult for you, nor is it out of reach.  It is not in heaven, that you should say, ‘Who will go up to heaven for us to get it for us and make us hear it, that we may observe it?’  Nor is it beyond the sea, that you should say, ‘Who will cross the sea for us to get it for us and make us hear it, that we may observe it?’  But the word is very near you, in your mouth and in your heart, that you may observe it.  'See, I have set before you today life and prosperity, and death and adversity; in that I command you today to love the LORD your God, to walk in His ways and to keep His commandments and His statutes and His judgments, that you may live and multiply, and that the LORD your God may bless you in the land where you are entering to possess it.  But if your heart turns away and you will not obey, but are drawn away and worship other gods and serve them, I declare to you today that you shall surely perish. You will not prolong your days in the land where you are crossing the Jordan to enter and possess it.  I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, the blessing and the curse. So choose life in order that you may live, you and your descendants,  by loving the LORD your God, by obeying His voice, and by holding fast to Him; for this is your life and the length of your days, that you may live in the land which the LORD swore to your fathers, to Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, to give them.'"
      • Are there things you are coveting in your heart rather than just wanting?  
      • What does your covetousness portray about your view of God?  
      • What is the remedy for covetousness?


      As Christians, we are wealthier than anyone else.  It has nothing to do with money and material riches.  As those who have been redeemed, with grateful hearts for receiving God's loving-kindness, His grace, must strive to become rich in godliness with contentment:
      “But godliness actually is a means of great gain when accompanied by contentment.” I Timothy 6:6
      It is only then that we are going to be able to understand and acknowledge that our God is in control of our measure of prosperity.  We choose to believe and trust in Him, being content with what, when, and how He provides for us.  It merely means that we are no longer blaming our husbands or pressuring them.  Understanding and acknowledging that God is in control of our circumstances in life, honors, and glorifies Him.  Moreover, it will help us to honor our husbands the way God has commanded wives to honor them.


      When it comes to housekeeping, we must be realistic.  We must be careful not to allow our expectations in housekeeping to become unrealistic.  The standards that our mothers and grandmothers held may not be the most practical ones for us.   In past generations, most women stayed at home alone while their husbands went to work, and their children went to school.  Many of these women had time to be meticulous housekeepers.  We must be realistic and not expect to live up to their standard of housekeeping.  Let me explain.  Often women who bear hardly any children, perhaps two, are the most critical ones about keeping a meticulous home.  Other women who have several children, perhaps 7, and cannot afford to send them to private schools often educate them at home.  Some women think that to be a good homemaker, we must work hard always at keeping our houses clean.  I have nothing against order and cleanliness, but it bothers me that they lay such heavy burdens on the backs of mothers that the Bible, the Word of God, has not commanded.  

      • Is there anywhere in the Bible that demands a clean house?  
      • Is there a command?  If so, I would like to know. 
      • Is there anywhere in the Bible where it says that wives have to change bed sheets every day or clean up the kitchen immediately after meals?  
      • What if I have been busy teaching my children all day, cooking, and managing my home and find no time to do the dishes the night before?  
      • Am I going to be condemned because you make it a command or law where God has not?  

      Let us be realistic and not hypocritical.  Perhaps you find it easy to do all this because you only had one or two children.  You do not home educate several children all at once.  So who are you to be God and sit in His seat?  Be careful when you judge lest you be judged and be condemned by God!

      I am going to be crystal clear here.  Nowhere in the Bible does it say how a wife ought to clean or to keep her house.  This is something a wife chooses with a cheerful heart to do for herself and her family.  Of course, common sense tells us that our homes need to be kept clean and organized enough to make them healthy and comfortable places to live and to make life easier.

      As ambassadors of Christ, our duty as wives is to keep our homes well enough.  It means that the exterior must look neat with good “curb appeal” all the time.  But the interior is the private domain of the family.  The standard of housekeeping within our homes is something that each wife should work out with her husband.  If my husband loves to have a home that is spotless and in perfect order...... I will try to do my best to honor him and please him.  Why not ask your husband about his priorities for your time?  If he does not have any preference and wants you to keep house according to your own discretion, then so be it.  Remember the Mary and Martha principle:
      “ But Martha was distracted with all her preparations; and she came up to Him and said, ‘Lord, do You not care that my sister has left me to do all the serving alone? Then tell her to help me.’  But the Lord answered and said to her, ‘Martha, Martha, you are worried and bothered about so many things;  but only one thing is necessary, for Mary has chosen the good part, which shall not be taken away from her.’”  Luke 10:40-42

      Imagine if we as mothers spend most of our time cleaning obsessively as well as decorating, we are going to have very little time to teach and train our children to love and fear God, to tremble at His Word.  I guarantee you that we have not chosen the good portion.  To me, as a godly mother, the spiritual is of much greater importance than the physical. I know many women who work and become obsessed with house cleaning and make the lives of their loved ones a total misery. They nag and nag when they are cleaning.  Why?  I don't know!  Let's let this sink deeply!

      There were many days when my four children were small that I was not able to get through my "to-do list."  Sometimes, I didn't get to cross off one thing!  I had to sigh at the end of the day, saying in my disappointment:  "Today, I did not get a thing done!"  Although my homeschool days are over, with my children, I still sometimes feel like I didn't get anything done!  But one thing I acknowledge with all of my heart is that I was given a privilege by God to reprove, honor, admonish, instruct, and execute all of God's judgments for my children.

      In my daily routine, God allows me to chastise, comfort, encourage, wipe away tears, apply Band-Aids, and in doing such things, I am making disciples for Christ who will bear abundant fruit for His glory for all eternity.  I did not get the floor scrubbed, nor did I write a thank you note to a relative or anyone else, but one thing I know and have learned is that God has entrusted my children to me to discipline and train them in the Lord.  This, to me, is of much greater importance than scrubbing floors...  I admit that cleaning is necessary but not more important than shaping the hearts of our children.  Don't get me wrong here!  I am not devaluing housework. Scrubbing floors is kingdom work.  And whatever our hands find to do, we must do it heartily as unto the Lord.  Doing housework is a vital service to our families and so unto the Lord.  To me, it is just not as important as making sure that I am meeting my children's needs, especially the spiritual ones of the heart, the shaping and molding of their hearts!  As godly mothers, our job is to discover and determine the highest priorities.  Once we identify those top priorities, then we must meet whatever may be the most pressing need of the moment.

      During those years, when our children are still small, we need to find a level of housekeeping that is reasonable, acceptable, clean, and orderly, but that will not eat up too much of our time when there are other more important things.  We must pray and ask God to direct us.  It is during these years that our children are still too small and cannot help us that we find ourselves frustrated doing the bulk of the housework ourselves.  It is then that we must be realistic and streamline things.  Why not teach and train your children when they are still small, a system of housekeeping that would work for the entire family?  This would not only bless them, but you also.  But we must take the time and trouble to train them.  They will be delighted to help!

      Remember that Jesus told Martha that one thing is necessary.  
      • What thing do you think Jesus is referring to?  
      • What do you think must be the most important thing we must do each day?  
      • How can you be more of a "Mary" rather than a "Martha?"  
      • Which one do you prefer?  
      • The one that gives you eternal life or the one that does not?  It is all up to you!


      Although the home should be a place of refuge from the pressures of life, it often becomes a place of frequent battles over the management of the household.  We strive over the time and money devoted to interior decoration, luxuries, as well as the allocation of chores that each spouse demands of the other.

      We can blame the feminist movement for sowing much of this discord.  They have succeeded in circulating the idea widely that marriage is okay as long as it is completely egalitarian:  Husbands and wives are expected to split everything fifty-fifty.  This includes the cooking, the cleaning, the wage-earning, the yard work, the diaper changing.  The list is long!  As a terrible result of all this, the husbands and wives have become petty bureaucrats, trying to keep endless accounts, constantly disappointing, getting on each other's nerves, and accusing each other.  Respect and honor are lost. Egalitarianism has damaged the way stay-at-home wives look at things.  Let us not be fooled deceiving ourselves into adding expectations which are obviously not founded on Scriptural commands.  These will only cause trouble.  Let us be wise and aware!

      Today we live in a culture where modern expectations are devastating the family.  One expectation that is destroying our future is that the wife, as well as the husband, must have a job and earn wages. What this modern culture does not realize is that when a wife does get a job, earning wages, she is in the position of trying to fill her husband's role, be the man providing for the family.  Not only is she expected to do all this, but she must also bear the children and manage her household.  The consequences are devastating and enormous, for both the marriage and the children!  They ignore the foundational verses that lay out the role of wives.  The older women are commanded to teach the younger that they should be "keepers at home."
      “That they may train the young women to love their husbands, to love their children,to be sober-minded, chaste, workers at home, kind, being in subjection to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”  Titus 2:4-5

      The Word of God is crystal clear about what God demands of wives and of marriage.  That they be homemakers, keepers of their home, managing their homes well so that the Message of God be not blasphemed.  Husbands and wives must not demand things that the Bible has not said that we are entitled to do.  These expectations are damaging and can be the seeds of strife.  To demand and expect our husbands to do the laundry, to take out the trash, for instance.  Maybe your dad always did these things, but it does not mean that we are to impose and assume that our husbands will or that we can justify being angry at him when he does not meet your expectations.

      As godly women (godfearing), we must rid ourselves of petty expectations like these.  I assure you there will be less friction between you and your husband!  Another example of these petty expectations is for the wife to presume that there must always be a certain amount of fuss over birthdays, anniversaries, Mother's Day, and so on.  To assume it has to always be her way or nothing, demanding a certain standard of living.  It is wrong to expect this out of our husbands, and it is one of the worst troublemakers in modern marriages! Consider what the Word of God says:
      “But having food and covering we shall be therewith content`”  I Timothy 6:6-8

      We must resolve in our hearts to learn to be content.  We must acknowledge all that we have, even if it is little, descends from above, from God.  He has given us all these blessings, and He intends for us to have them.  Godliness with contentment is the source of true wealth, enriching the home with peace and joy.  Let that sink deeply in your hearts!

      I leave you with a few questions to meditate on:
      • Do you feel disappointed because of your husband's failure to fulfill your expectations?   
      • Are these expectations what the Word of God says you are entitled to?  
      • What will you do to rid yourself of unbiblical expectations?


      Today we live in an upside-down world that distorts God's plan for the home and family.  When a wife goes to work outside the home, her husband and children go through culture shock.  Often the husband is forced to add to his vocational work increased family assignments.  He is often frustrated over the increase in his own duties and guilty over his wife's increased fatigue and extended hours to keep up at home.  God gave the husband the responsibility of providing for the family, not the wife (Genesis 2:15).  When the husband sabotages meeting his responsibility, it is usually a debilitating blow to him personally and to the marriage.  A woman's career can easily serve as a surrogate husband.  Why?  Because usually during working hours she is ruled by her boss' and employer's preferences.  Since the wife loses a lot of her flexibility to receive a paycheck, the husband must bend and adapt his schedule for emergencies with the children, visits to the home by repairmen, and so on.  As a tragic result, it leaves the children without a primary caretaker utterly devoted to their personal needs and nurturing.

      Sadly, some women see the paycheck as a fair trade for the sights, sounds, and tastes of home.  Though many see their paychecks as independence, self-fulfillment, and achievement.  How tragic it is to be bound to paychecks, for it demands in exchange abandonment of her family in private and personal ways!  How said it is for a woman to seek employment outside her home as the rule rather than the exception, leaving no one to attend and care for the home and to produce the next generation!

      Homemaking is a worthy profession!  Being a full-time wife and mother is a privilege and an overflowing oasis of opportunity.  It is a brilliant catalyst for creativity in meaningful work!  Homemaking is not oppressive restraint of intellectual prowess, but a release of wise instruction to our home.  It is not the bitter assignment of personal inferiority, but the bright assurance of the ingenuity of God's plan for marriage.  It is not the limitations of gifts, nor the stinginess of rewards of those gifts, but rather it is the multiplication of a mother's legacy to the generations to come.  Homemaking is the generous bestowal of all God meant a mother and wife to be to those He entrusted her to care.  There is no higher and more sacred calling than that of motherhood and homemaking!

      Thus, as godly women, wives, and mothers, let us pursue the things of God and not the vanity that crowds our heart and soul, forgetting God's purpose for us.  God created us, women, to be our husband's suitable helper. God's will for marriage is for husband and wife to walk together hand in hand doing His will.  Let us not lose sight that we are heirs together of the grace of life.  Let us not allow other things to rob us of God's plan for us as husband and wife.  Our husband needs us to be their helper (helpmeet), their Queen.  Let us plant seeds that bind us together in our marriages, becoming heirs together.  This starts with us wives because we are the weaker vessel and have the greatest need!  It is our visible need of him, our husband, that awakens him.  Let us pour our life into pleasing our husband, serving him and nurturing him.  Let us guard Proverbs 31 as our standard of living.  Let the heart of our husband trust in us safely so that he may not have need of anything else,
      “The heart of her husband trusteth in her, And he shall have no lack of gain.   She doeth him good and not evil All the days of her life”  (Prov. 31:11-12). 

      Without this foundation, our husband can never bond.  When we bond with our husbands, we gain their strength and stability.  As a godly married couple doing God's will, together, we can accomplish more than we would ever accomplish when we are standing alone!

      Becoming heirs together of the grace of life is God's highest plan for both husband and wife.  It is the great mystery, the pattern of Christ and the church.  The inheritance is God's great blessings:  love, joy, stability, wisdom, and balance.  Our God is looking for godly helpers who will honor Him and all His commands, to be used as a vessel of blessings.  Sadly, our God has so few willing vessels!  He is an awesome God of blessings and delight.  He is ready and willing to honor those who obey Him and do His will.

      As husbands and wives, let us put off our old ways of thinking and acting.  Instead, let us put on new ways, which are like those of Christ.  Let us rid ourselves of sinful habits and replace them with righteous habits or patterns.  It is the only antidote that is Biblical for the poisonous sins that we must put off: Ephesians 4:25-32; 5:4,11,18Philippians 4:6Colossians 3:8,12-14; Romans 13:12-14.

      If you find yourself being a feminist at heart, you must banish that and repent to save your family and your soul! Feminism is ugly and sinful, and the sooner it stops, the better. Let’s bring back the gentle, loving, godly, and feminine woman in us who is proud to be a woman of God.  Let us embrace our sacred calling dearly as regal women of God.   God's will for us wives is to become godly, excellent wives.  He has provided us with enough wisdom from His Word to teach us to live a godly life and be the godly and excellent wife He intends for us to be.  Let us strive to be what God wants us to be to glorify Him!
      "Seeing that His divine power has granted to us everything pertaining to life and godliness, through the true knowledge of Him who called us by His own glory and excellence"  (II Peter 1:3).

      We are without excuse!  Why?  Because God has richly provided for each Christian wife, all that we need to battle against sin and become godly wives, excellent wives.  Thanks be to God that even when we fall short of becoming the excellent wife and excellent husband that He wants us to be, He forgives us and gives us a second chance!!
      “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness”  (I John 1:9).  

      The only question that remains is:   Are you willing and ready to be what God wants you to be according to His purposes?  Are you ready to begin fulfilling your role as husband and wife as God has ordained with His help? 
      “And this is the boldness which we have toward him, that, if we ask anything according to his will, he heareth us.”  I John 5:14

      Thus, let us let our God work in our lives,
      “And we know that to them that love God all things work together for good, even to them that are called according to his purpose.   For whom he foreknew, he also foreordained to be conformed to the image of his Son that he might be the firstborn among many brethren.”  Romans 8:28-29  

      He wants us to be joyful and fulfill our role as husbands and wives.  Our God has prepared good works for us as Christian wives and husbands to do,
      “ For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God afore prepared that we should walk in them.”  Ephesians 2:10  

      These good works have eternal worth,
      “For we must all be made manifest before the judgment-seat of Christ; that each one may receive the things done in the body, according to what he hath done, whether it be good or bad.”  II Corinthians 5:10 

      Let us then not be afraid,
      “As Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose children ye now are, if ye do well, and are not put in fear by any terror.”  I Peter 3:6  

      Let us fix our eyes on God rather than on ourselves,
      “Therefore let us also, seeing we are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,  looking unto Jesus the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising shame, and hath sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.”  Hebrews 12:1-2  

      Let us crucify self in order not to sin, Romans 6:6-7.  Let us obey God's will for the wife under the authority of the husband,  I Cor. 11:3; Ephesians 5:23.  God protects us through the authority structure He has set up for us.  Let us accept God's protection as wise women.  Let us submit graciously to God's plan of protection for us.  God protects us, wives, from the influence that the world might have on us, I John 2:16; Satan and his dominion of darkness, Ephesians 6:10-11, 13; and because, as women, we are more easily deceived, I Timothy 2:12-14.  Thus let us submit to God's authority, and that of our husband's as well.  Did you know that what is killing the Lord's church today is our homes? It is women and men refusing to build and care for their own homes as God wants them to! We watch in great pain and sorrow as our children disappear into the world for lack of attention from their mothers and fathers!  Think about it!

      Man “is the image and glory of God; but woman is the glory of man” (I Corinthians 11:7).

      May we be a crown to our husbands, the monarch of the cradle, and queen of the home.  May we also embrace our sacred calling as regal women of God.  May we allow His grace to teach us to lay down our lives in service to the Lord and our families—loving and helping our husbands, teaching and training our children, caring for our homes and reaching out the hand of hospitality that we might be able to do a mighty work for Him.  May we die to ourselves so that we may bear much more excellent fruit.
      "Truly, truly, I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit."  John 12:24

      Queen of Her Own Quiet Home

      Hail, woman! Hail, thou faithful wife, and mother,
      Thou latest choicest part of God's heavenly grand plan.

      No other fills and occupies thy peerless place at home,
      Hail, faithful wife, and mother, thou art God's suitable helper
      For laboring and suffering man here on earth.

      Hail, thou woman! Hail, for thou art the crown of thy husband,
      The monarch of thy cradle, and queen of thy home.
      Hail, woman!  Hail, thou faithful mother,
      For thou shapest and mouldest thy children's hearts,
      In thy peerless place called home, at day's decline,
      Hail, woman!  Hail, thy radiant virtues shine!

      Hail, thou excellent woman!
      For none can fill thy peerless graceful place,
      To rule or to teach thy children, thy treasures,

      Not in the church,
      Not in the mart of trade, or senate halls;
      Not in the wild, festive scene;
      Not Fashion’s altar her its victim calls;
      Not here her field of triumph, but alone...

                                                                                (Adapted from an unknown author)                                        


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